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    Posted: 14 Feb 2012 at 8:13am

Dear ML Friends,

                             today is going to be a hard one for those of us that have lost husbands, wives, sweethearts or partners. Once again it is Valentines Day, a day for people to express their love for each other.

There is nothing worse than walking into a shop or supermarket and seeing the cards and flowers knowing that the person we would be sending them to is no longer here with us. How I envy those lucky people who still have a loved one to spoil, love and cherish, who are still part of a couple and have that special person to share their life with.

But remember, better that we had that brief time with our loved ones than never to have had it at all. As long as they are still in our hearts and minds, our love will reach out to them wherever they are.

LOVE,

One word,

But so many memories.

 

Just to let you know that I am thinking of you all, dear friends,

God Bless

Ian xx

I love you with all my heart my darling, today, tomorrow and always, your loving husband, Ian XX

My Tribute to Wend



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Hi Ian,
Yes, it is hard. I bought my other half a rugby shirt for Valentines last year - for his favourite team.  He was so pleased with it - it is upstairs in a wardrobe as I dont want to part with it.  I went to Tesco this morning and they are all rifling through what is left of the cards and flowers.  I only hope they appreciate their loved ones because you dont know what youve got till its gone.  Thinking of everyone out there.
Suexx
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Hello Ian
Yes, today is so hard. I'm not leaving the house today - the roses and hearts and flowers are really too much to take. Andy and I were married nearly 30 years and, even if maybe the past few years it has all become so very over-commercialised, the sentiment remains the same.  We always made a big deal of V Day - nice to have something to celebrate during thses grey Winter days - even though he told me he loved me every day, not just Valentines! We always exchanged cards - I have so many still, in a special box. I remember so sadly our last Valentine's Day - 2010. Andy was too ill to get me a card so asked me to get one so he could sign it. I have it still of course - the writing is so shaky, he was so weak. Next day, 15th, he was back in hospital again.  I try to remember the many other happy days we had but cannot forget that day.  I am feeling so very unhappy today. 
Thank you for your kind words.  You express feelings so well. 
   Jan x
 
My Andy - I'll be with you when the roses bloom again.

...I love you Andy darling - don't forget.
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 I know how hard it is every day and Valentines Day really just brings it home even more for those who have lost someone so precious.
 
Thinking of you all on another hard day.
 
Carol xx
My darling I will never forget you and always love you.I am missing you so much. Sweet Dreams Baby x
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Hi Ian,

It is definitely a difficult day. I wasn't going to celebrate Valentine's day, but I decided when I woke up this morning that I was going to put on my red sweater, a little bit of makeup and I wore my locket with the photo of me and Jerry, along with a lock of his hair, so I could keep him close today. He always got me such beautiful cards and flowers on Valentine's Day. tonight I will pull out those old cards and read them and have a good cry. I really miss him so much.

I hope you make it through this day okay. Try to keep those good memories to the forefront.

Sending you love and hugs,
Michelle xxx
Think good thoughts and be peaceful-Missing you so much, my Jerry
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Hi Michelle, Jan, Carol and Sue,
                                  Thanks for your replies and kind words.
I went out as usual today and bought a dozen long stemmed red roses for Wend as I always used to. I have put them in a vase in the lounge by her photograph. I hope she can see them from wherever she is and feel my love reaching out to her.
Valentine's Day is so hard now, but I shall try and remember all the good days we had and the love and romance we shared.
God Bless you all,
Ian xx


Edited by IanH - 14 Feb 2012 at 5:19pm
I love you with all my heart my darling, today, tomorrow and always, your loving husband, Ian XX

My Tribute to Wend



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Thinking of all of you that have lost a much loved partner , I know this must be a hard day for you all.        Love  Phyllis  xxxxx
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Can we just add our thoughts to everyone who has lost that special someone..As Sue has said it is only when we have lost that special heart we realise each and every day how much we have lost..Our blessings to each and everyone of our special friends here at Muchloved..
Marion Ian .
 
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i found it very hard this valatines day and i found it hard when i went in the shops too at the mo i cant stop crying since i have  lost barry and this week hasnt been easy nither
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The tears are never far away, they catch you unawares - when you are least expecting them.  I came to the realisation this week that this is how it is going to be.  Yes, you do change - beyond all recognition .  You do try to occupy your time and help other people where you can.  At the heart of it all is that you have lost your soul mate, that one person that makes you whole.  You will never get over it - you adapt somehow to the condition of being 'me' instead of 'we'.  Some weeks go by better than others - some seem to drag on and on.  You hear from people in the start then gradually it goes a bit quieter- you dont want to get in touch with them all the time in case you come over as desperate - which you are !  Well meaning friends say 'Oh , you are settling down better now' as if there is a stop and start to the grief.  There isn't - it has a beginning alright but no end .  thinking of all of you out there who know what it feels like -
Suexx

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